The Hidden
Dangers of 
Avoidance.

Lets Talk…

So this article/Blog is going deep. Its time to be even more transparent. Why? To be honest because I feel that being transparent with someone about your journey. Along with facing the pains of your past. Then working on healing and moving on from them. Instead of numbing them and not truly dealing with the facts of what’s happened and face them. That will truly be one of the biggest moves in your life you can make. To then really start to transform into who you truly can be.

My Turn..

I will use myself to start… Like all of us. I had childhood issues and traumas that I dealt with growing up. The details I will leave out. But from those events plus as the years went on. I started to revert to things to help distract me from those feelings/emotions I had experienced. Overtime and I mean years, I used these distractions as numbing agents to keep me from temporarily feeling those pains. From those numbing agents and what they started to do to my mind. It was changing my view of certain parts and aspects of my life. How did I come to find out what distractions where ones that where negative? Thru finally starting to be more self aware of my thoughts and actions in the days. I talk about this all the time because of how damn important it is.

I have heard people say ” What do you mean be more self aware? I know what my actions are each day because I live it not you.” Guess what I actually get it. I understand. Because I used to think that way too. But heres the facts and statistics.. over 40% of our days are done thru habitual routines.Meaning half the day we aren’t actively aware of what we are doing. Heres a link to show you… So waking up to what and why we are doing that other 45% in the day is a lot. So Lets Dive In..

Understanding Pain.

What are some types of emotional pain?

• Grief is a powerful emotional pain characterized by intense feelings of sadness, despair, and loss. Following a significant loss, such as maybe the death of a loved one. I dealt with this when my father passed last January. Loosing someone close to all of us is so hard. So how did I deal with it? Short temper. Mood swings. Continuous loops in my head of frustration, sadness and pain. I know we all have or will deal with this at some point. So over time of facing the facts and allowing myself to feel what I needed to. To get passed it more. To start to move on from pain to happy joyful memories. Do I still get sad at times absolutely. I had a great father and have a great mother.But I noticed and dealt with the grief. Here’s a great article that may help you or someone you know more?!

• Anxiety can be a natural response to emotional pain, and persistent emotional pain can contribute to anxiety disorders and other mental health conditions. As with anger, anxiety and fear both also release adrenaline. This will normally result in things like jumpiness, a tendency to get startled easily, the not being able to relax. Anxiety can also be induced by substance use also. So in which case I would suggest quitting the alcohol and/or drugs. Get with a professional on starting that journey. Here’s a great link for someone who may need more information on severe Anxiety.

• Trauma symptoms can manifest in many ways. Including intrusive memories/thoughts, avoidance behaviors, negative changes in mood and thinking. Even alterations in arousal and reactivity. These symptoms can significantly impact a person’s daily life, affecting their relationships, work, and just overall well-being. I want to talk about PTSD for a minute. Because that seems to be the bigger topic of the three. Generally, PTSD symptoms are into four types: intrusive memories, avoidance, negative changes in thinking and mood, and changes in physical and emotional reactions. Symptoms can vary over time or vary from person to person. The thing is a lot of people try and compare their traumatic events to others. We are all built different. So everyone’s brains aren’t going to respond to the same things the same. SO understand that when talking with people. If they share something serious or vulnerable with you? Don’t think that’s what they are sad or mad about. Just be there.. But You have to start moving forward if you haven’t faced and fixed or working on, what is keeping you down. Here’s another article, to help you dive deeper if your brave enough to.

Methods Of Numbing the Pain..

Emotional and Psychological effects. 

• Emotional Numbing is the mental and emotional process of shutting out feelings. Also may be experienced as deficits of emotional responses or reactivity. Feeling emotionally numb can happen as a result of physical or emotional pain. In an attempt to protect yourself from being hurt again, it’s not uncommon to disconnect, detach, or even numb out feelings related to the situation.

• Physical stress happens as heightened emotional pain occurs. Which in turn fuels further stress and anxiety. This can create a feedback loop. In where the body’s natural stress response amplifies pain signals, making them feel even more intense, and vice versa even.

• We are even Stunting our own personal growth. Think about it. If you are numbing your mind with things that are waisting you away. We can start to utilize our time towards making our lives better and more enjoyable.

• Digital distractions. How often are we on our phones or the tv? How often do we just let our brain declutter. How many hours are you scrolling away looking at everything else. Instead of looking inward at what your going thru or went thru that you need to face.

• Short term vs Long-term consequences. Substance abuse and addiction can stem from not dealing with pains. A lot of people i’m sure all of us know. Use or have used drugs or some sort of bad habit to numb pains from their life. It may even be you or me? But you may need to realize that you don’t feel any better after doing it. You probably feel worse. When we try and shut down emotions. We are suppressing our emotions of joy, happiness, potential love or whatever other wonders of this life we get to experience.

Some Healthy Alternatives to Numbing.

• We need to acknowledge and embrace the pain. Life inevitably brings its share of pain, and setbacks. While our natural instinct is to normally resist or avoid these unpleasant experiences. Research and psychological approaches are also suggesting that acknowledging and embracing pain is crucial for personal growth and emotional well-being.

Conclusion…

This article could have had so much more information. But I wanted to give you some tools to use to get going. Stop numbing the pains or distracting yourself to death. To avoid whatever you need to face. Don’t take it out on other people. Hurt people hurt people. But don’t be a pushover either. If helping someone else or yourself means stepping away? Just remember just do what you soul heartedly know is right. The odds of you being here is 400billion to 1. So protect yourself and your peace. Lets seek healthy ways to eliminate the numbing ways. Build a better life for yourself. Or why not the people around you that you care about to. Get open and transparent with someone. Have you started to deal with those things yet? If not then your time is now or guess what? You can’t blame anyone else but yourself as time goes on and nothings changed. I believe in you always that you can concur what you need to!