How Much Are You Worth?

Its not just a cute word. 

Hello there! Look I know some of us hear people say know your value and your worth. Then they reply back so quickly oh I do! But I’m here to be raw and real with you because thats what people do right?! When they truly care. But I’ll bet most of us say we know our worth and value but have never sat down and took the time to really lay out our values. Maybe some have and thats great! But you need to stop lying to yourself. Why do I say that? Because you say you value this, but your actions say that. Your words say this, but you said your “Values” are that?! I’m not here to judge. I’m here to wake you up! This come from a place of experience. I was living a life of false identity for years. Of who I was being on the outside compared to who i wanted to be. I battled everyday knowing my values or worth. My value I thought was in attraction from women. Why women? Because growing up and into my late teens being pretty overweight. That insecurity bled into some big parts of my life. Or from the type of job I had. Or the car I drove. Always acting like everything was under control. But what was happening was overtime without solidifying who I was deep down. Along with what I truly value and desire from my life. I was destroying myself from the inside out. Not living the way I really wanted to. The outcome of that. Me feeling lost. Feeling empty. Not knowing my own value and worth. Not knowing what I can bring to the table of life and offer to it. Feeling all over the place inside. But could I put on a good appearance lol. After finally taking a step back and saying enough is enough in my life. Only then did things start to really shift.

So what am I Saying? 

Well we need to stop and take some time. Time you deserve to just be with yourself and figure out what you truly want and value. We need to look at a few KEY points to help us figure out. So lets break these down a bit.

• Self Awareness
• You need to understand your strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs is crucial for recognizing your worth. There are two types of self-awareness: private and public. Private self-awareness is when people are aware of something about themselves that others might not be. Like being anxious about reading out loud.
• Public self-awareness is when people are aware of how others see them.
• Having self-awareness makes it easier to build self-esteem.
• Being self-aware allows you to course correct a situation. Or save you from that exact potential situation agin.
• Reflecting on how we responded to a situation we where in, will give you a deeper understanding to who you want to truly be.

• Boundaries
• Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries helps protect your self-esteem and reinforces your value.
• Boundaries are essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling life. They help us establish and maintain healthy relationships
• Without boundaries, we can feel overwhelmed, stressed, taken advantage of. Or even unable to manage our time and energy effectively. By setting boundaries, we can prioritize our needs, protect our time and energy, and create a healthy balance in life that promotes our overall health and happiness.

• Self Compassion
• Being kind to yourself and acknowledging your imperfections is essential in affirming your worth.
• Compassion is also often misunderstood which is unfortunate. Because it is one of the most skillful motivations, and one of the most helpful attributes. That we can harness in psychology. Compassion does not simply mean “to be nice” or does it mean “to be empathic”. Although sometimes these things may be involved, depending on situation, they actually might not (!).  
• A standard definition of compassion comes from the Dalai Lama and it involves two-parts: “Sensitivity to the causes of suffering in one’s self and others”.
• Compassion may involve coming into contact with some suffering. So that you can do whatever is necessary to help reduce or stop it.

• Growth Mindset
• Embracing challenges and learning from them failures contributes to personal growth and a stronger sense of value.
• You have to learn to look at ” Failing” at something that is inevitable. Your going to not be good at something all the time. Your going to have off days. But you have to change your perspective on what these situations actually mean. They are LESSONS for you my friend. I understand that in the moment its tuff. I get that completely. So you wont get it all right all the time. Thats ok! But try and get yourself back to center as best you can and look at the situation a different way. Ok what can I learn. What can I gain from this experience. Its about getting knocked down and getting back up and learning what knocked you down. So you can avoid that fall again.
• Don’t Have a fixed mindset. You aren’t just that way and thats it. You are the most advanced thing put on this earth. Regardless of whats going on with this AI. So absolutely you can!
• If you have a faith. Grow in your relationship their. The bond between you and your higher belief, is so important to bringing new perspective and views on how you go about your day and who you want to become. Your values and worth in yourself will become more rock solid. So then you can start LIVING out what your really believe.

This video is full of great information to help maybe guide you thru discovering new things about yourself.

• Impact On Relationships
• Understanding your value can improve your relationships. As it allows you to attract healthier connections and communicate better.
• Feeling unhappy or unsettled in your relationship can take a big toll on your mental health and wellbeing.
• On top of potentially feeling sad, worried, or possibly angry. Relationship problems can also leave you feeling frustrated and confused because it’s not always easy to link your feelings to a specific cause.
• They are one of the main things that has drawn me to the relationships that have grown into deep and lasting ones, even when this happened on a level below my awareness. Values are the ones that define how I experience my relationship to others.

• Resilience
• Knowing your worth helps create resilience, allowing you to face adversity with confidence and strength.
• Being resilient gives us the ability to accept a situation, adjust to it, and seek solutions. We can cultivate resilience in ourselves, even though some people are inherently more resilient than others.
• While resilience refers to the capacity to return to a prior, more positive state following adversity or struggle. Adaptability refers to the ability to change in order to cope under challenging circumstances. This is what distinguishes resilience from adaptation.
• Performance is significantly impacted by resilience. It allows us to continue being innovative and productive! Even in the face of adversity. Despite any obstacles we may encounter, resilience can help us in maintaining our optimism and goal-focused attitudes.
• People who possess resilience are more able to seize new chances. You can overcome obstacles, and advance emotionally and professionally.

• Contribution to Society
• Recognizing how your unique qualities and contributions can positively impact others. Which will enhance your sense of value.
• Become part of something greater than yourself. Yes you have to take time for yourself absolutely. But do things when you can to bring fulfillment to this life. Be someone who’s left some sort of impact. It doesn’t have to be to millions of people or even hundreds. But in some way that you and only YOU can do it.
• There is a such a great depth of joy you feel when you do something because you truly care and want to selflessly.
• In business. Contribution is an important factor in workplace productivity. Why? Because when employees feel that their contributions are valued and appreciated, they are more motivated to work hard and do their best. This in turn leads to greater innovation and collaboration. Employees will then build stronger relationships with their coworkers and begin to trust one another more.
• Also being a contribution to your faith. If it truly matters to you. Then take some extra time to learn more or spare some time to your church or financially if possibly too. However contributing may look.

So In Closing.

I hope you can see the significance of finding your values out and living them out. As best as you humanly can of course. Give yourself some grace my friend. Remember we are all here just trying to figure it out as best as we can. But IT IS TIME! Your time to live out your life the way you really want to. That may take making big decisions that can drastically change your life. But you along with your faith are the writers and creators in YOUR story. So grab the pen!