Why Your “New Self”
Will Cost You
Your Old Self.

The Premise.

People want the results of “a new life”, but without the discomfort of killing off their “old habits”.. Their old social circles and old mindsets. They want the ” NEW YEAR, NEW ME” without the funeral for the “OLD ME”. We have to get used to the idea that discomfort is a good thing most the time. Discomfort can mean growth. It could mean your not living up to your full potential.

Why is it easier for us to encourage other people to start something new or to take a big leap of faith, towards something new. BUT when it comes to ourselves we are so hesitant? Why do we quit something or think we are doing something wrong and are failures if we don’t do something new “right the first time”? Or think you cant do it? We love HERO movies but don’t pursue being the HERO in OUR own life? I’m asking all these questions to help you think.. The truth is people don’t think enough. By that I mean reflection. Inward thinking. Reflecting on their own actions and habits. I want to do my part to help wake YOU up. All this comes from a place of wanting to see you win! In what ever area of life that may be for you.

The Social Friction.

Something that isn’t talked about alot. But needs to be understood is this. A hard truth is as you grow as a person, you will become a mirror to those around you that reflects the lack of discipline in others. This makes them feel uncomfortable. But you can’t let that get to you. Here’s some perspective.. Who would you rather care about giving you their opinion? Someones two cents that has no knowledge or skill or experience in an area of life your trying to improve in? Or even more so but their family! Or someone that you look up to because they have success in that area in life your trying to get better in? I would 7 days a week rather hear from the person thats successful in those areas. If you said the other option? Thats why you haven’t succeeded. It’s just truth.

Why do I say that? Well when you are trying to gain wisdom, you need to seek it from someone who has shown they are qualified for you to seek council from them. Another truth is your commitment to excellence will likely cost you “friendships”. But be ok with that, because alot of those friendships were just built on mediocrity anyways. Things with no substance or value. It’s ok in a couple months neither of you will think of each other anymore anyways:) Surround yourself with people you can see yourself wanting to be around in 5years. If not, why fill up your mental bandwidth and limited time on this earth with?

The “75Hard” Mentality..

If you know what 75hard actually is? Not that you completed it necessarily. But that you understand that the power of it, isn’t in the physical transformation.. Ultimately its learning about the elimination of the “compromise” muscle. It’s about figuring out how to time manage your days better. To be more strategic with your time. To prioritize things that will add value in your life. Not fill it with negative news or trying to beat some 12 year old for 6hours playing video games. We are not meant to just consume. YOUR LIFE MATTERS!! So make it matter! Grab the pen in your story and start writing!!

A personal development journey is useless if it includes an escape hatch for when things get challenging. Listen I used to be so bad with my time. I would procrastinate everything all the time till last minute. I would not be consistent with so many different things. I wouldn’t keep my word. I for years would try and run off motivation or the “winging it” mentality lol. So yea none of those worked out in my favor to say the least. I would even consume of all this personal development information and seminars and watch videos and would get all hyped for 5 minutes then just turn the tv on! lol.. I wasn’t thinking… I wasn’t inward thinking enough to see i was sabotaging myself.

I’m now to the point to where even on my trip I was just on to Oregon. Flying from one state to another, being in a car for hours and hours each day. Meanwhile going to spread my parents ashes as the main reason for the trip. I still each day kept 8 daily commitments to myself. One of the eight is working out everyday also like at a gym or even getting my 40lbs vest and wearing it for at least an hour and a half actively moving. I have been keeping my commitments for over 10 months now straight each day consistently now. Have my daily commitments had to adapt as things come up in the day before, absolutely! But they would always be something that moved me forward towards my longterm goal, for that day. I would also tell myself. Well, your keeping your word “which should mean everything”. So I would even stay up late or wake up super early or miss something mid-day to keep a commitment. Some people would say I was being alittle extreme.. Well without pressure change won’t happen. Without consistency theres no confidence. So I say all this to show that If I can do it you can too. I’m no one special. I just kept my line drawn in the sand. That I’m choosing myself finally…… Thru Consistency Habits Form..

The Point.

If any of this hurt or pissed you off or you agreed.. Good. I’m glad it did. Look into why it moved you? Where is your consistency taking you? Which road is it taking you down. With this being January I wanted to give people real expectations of what to possibly expect when your moving forward to make changes in life. I know life gets hard. We can’t assume that because we feel pressure that its bad or that pressure is always a bad thing. Pressure can be good to. So feel where its coming from and figure it out.. You don’t have to want to become a CEO or millionaire. But you can focus on becoming the best at whatever it is you do or want to do. It may be in your faith.. But stop getting mad at “Getting By” habits when you want the life of a “Go Getter”. So lets go “Win The Day”.. #PROJECTABETTERME